• Do you ever feel like the older you get, the less you start believing in love? All those romantic movies, all those sappy songs, all those love stories, have they started to feel meaningless to you? 
• Did you notice how you stopped fantasizing about finding your one true love and how you just live life now to find someone you could settle with?
• Because of love? It just feels like an ancient concept now.
• It just sounds like something that was made for the movies and not real life, something that probably never really existed. 
• If you’re confused about what brought this subtle change in your thinking, about how you came to be so indifferent and so unromantic, and about what actually made you give up on love, then here are 6 reasons to clear your confusion:

1. Speed Dating

You try to set up a date with every prospective partner, judging them critically on every single thing they do, without even giving them proper time to reveal their true selves. 

You didn’t have much fun on that first date? Let’s just move on to the next person. You jump from person to person, just trying to find your one true love, just trying to find that spark everyone keeps talking about. 

And every failed date makes you more hopeless. It makes you lose faith. When you date someone just for the sake of dating and not because you had any sort of initial interest in them, there’s very little chance that they’ll end up being ‘the one.

2. Your ego has taken over

Ego, attitude, arrogance, superiority complex-whatever you want to call it! Our generation is filled with a ton of it. 

Everything you do and everything you say revolves around status, money, power, fame, and physical beauty. Whether it’s a competition of how many followers you have on Twitter or how many likes you got on that amazing new selfie, our conversations keep on getting shallower by the day. 

And from all these conversations arise insecurities and jealousies, even from the people we actually love and care about. If we spend so much time obsessing over our own selves, what time will we have to actually find true love and to actually make someone else the center of our attention?

3. Lack of Self-Respect

We sleep around to fill the lonely gaps in our hearts. We post half-naked pictures on social media just to get a little bit more attention. We pretend to be people we’re not, people that we believe would be more accepted by society. 

These are all examples of disrespecting your own self. One of the most beautiful experiences in life is to share your mind, body, and soul with someone special, someone who truly deserves it but sadly, we’ve managed to suck the beauty right out of that one experience. 

We’re up for one-night stands. We’re ready to be in relationships where there’s no respect. We’re okay with settling for just one great moment rather than aspiring to make it one great life together.

4. The world is at our feet

Our world has become extremely fast-paced, which has made it hard for us to hold on to ANYTHING for too long. Think about it. Almost everything in life has this one certain pattern: You want something. 

You run after it. You get it. You get bored. And you move on to something new! This can be applied to the clothes we wear, the food we eat, the jobs we secure, the new gadgets we buy, and sadly, even to the people we meet. 

5. A temporary good time means more to us than working on a long-lasting relationship

We want to live life in the moment. We want to be stress-free. 

We want to ignore any problems we have. We’re not up for putting in actual efforts. We’re not up for handling the inevitable emotional stress that accompanies all serious relationships. And we’re not ready to let anyone in. So what do we actually do? 

We drink. We party. We satisfy our sexual desires with people we might never even meet again. And we move further and further away from the hopes of finding someone real, someone who can give us true and lasting happiness.

6. We just don’t know how to love

Love does not come easy to anyone. We’re not the only generation in history who has been left confused and depressed by this one complex phenomenon but we’re probably the only ones who have given up on even trying. 

We’re scared of love. We’re scared of how vulnerable it makes us feel. We’re scared of the pain it can cause. And we’re even scared of the possibility that we might never find it. What needs to be understood here is that love is never a fairy tale. 

You actually have to work and make it grow. You actually have to commit and devote yourself to just this one person. And you actually have to let yourself believe in the fact that love is beautiful, inspiring, and selfless.